Thoughts

Dear Phi Phi

I thought I don't miss you anymore, but I'm missing you all over again after seeing you today.


Dear Others

Though what they are doing is not right but don't go overboard criticizing them. One ofyour children might just turn out to be like them.

Phi Phi

I miss you

Problem

A relation is having financial problem and to a certain degree it is affecting me. As a family member I had helped and will help this person out but I have to a draw a line to the amount I can help...and this confuses me slightly...should I be helping out all the time? I'm mostly afraid that other people will say that I'm one of those who would run away when some one is in trouble but will be close by during happy times. The truth is even during happy times I wasn't around that much and never took advantage of the happy situations.

I have thought about the root of this person's financial problem and only God knows why. An ustaz once told us at a 'ceramah' that when a person has gone for his hajj, he will never be poor again. His rezeki will be plenty. This person has gone to hajj twice and why is this happening him/her?

I don't have the answer.

Radar

Can we really trust our gaydar? We can't actually. Our gaydar might be too sensitive and hence we interpret the signals the way we want. We may interpret a person's silence, look, actions as signs that he is one of us, but in actual fact he is not. He may like us but no lust for us.

Update on Marriage (not mine of course)

1. A friend in Africa

Got married, has a child, move to Africa. Husband lives with his girlfriend, she lives with her son. Girlfriend left husband, husband move in wife's house, now husband wants wife back.

2. A friend in KL

Married 9 years ago on an island in the South China Sea. After few years husband not showing interest in the marriage and got divorced this year. Divorce was not messy, they both had the same lawyer.

3. A friend cum colleague.

Married many years ago, did not seem like they were having problem. Got divorced, the colleague got married, got divorce again and planning to marry another one in December.

4. A friend and a former colleague.

She's from a very rich family, went to the States, got married to a tabligh member, had five kids or probably 6. She recently divorced the husband because she wanted to get married to another man. Children with the husband. She once wore tudung labuh.

That's life.

KARMA

What comes around goes around.

My journey to get the final degree was a pleasant one. No major obstacles, no hatreds towards anyone - none to my supervisor at all. I would say that the whole process was a smooth one. I got through each process only once. The smoothness and pleasantness of the whole experience I mostly attribute it to karma. I thought to believe in such a thing was not logical but today two of my colleagues believe in it too.

While supervising my undergraduate students in completing their academic projects I made the process easy, simple and pleasant. I told them what they need to do in a nice way , 'Id joke with them and did not ask them to do things I know they are not capable of. I was treated the same way by my supervisor and within the stipulated time I graduated.

Three of my friends have not completed their Phd. One started in 2002, the other in 2003 and another in 2005. I know for a fact they did not make the experience pleasant ones for their students. I know one would spent hours just correcting each and every mistake, the other would only give low grades to students despite their effort and originality and the other demanded things that were impossible for their students.

So my theory shared by others too.

Thoughts

My 2 cent thoughts for today:

I sympathize with the police more than with the boy's family. If the boy had not 'stolen' the car, things would not have happened.

Sometimes I wish I was a prostitute. It's an easier job.

Lee Dewyze of AI is hot, so is Big Mike.