Problem

A relation is having financial problem and to a certain degree it is affecting me. As a family member I had helped and will help this person out but I have to a draw a line to the amount I can help...and this confuses me slightly...should I be helping out all the time? I'm mostly afraid that other people will say that I'm one of those who would run away when some one is in trouble but will be close by during happy times. The truth is even during happy times I wasn't around that much and never took advantage of the happy situations.

I have thought about the root of this person's financial problem and only God knows why. An ustaz once told us at a 'ceramah' that when a person has gone for his hajj, he will never be poor again. His rezeki will be plenty. This person has gone to hajj twice and why is this happening him/her?

I don't have the answer.

Radar

Can we really trust our gaydar? We can't actually. Our gaydar might be too sensitive and hence we interpret the signals the way we want. We may interpret a person's silence, look, actions as signs that he is one of us, but in actual fact he is not. He may like us but no lust for us.